How to deal with Delayed Life syndrome
If you do catch yourself putting off life until “better times”, you need to make a change. Here's what you can do now.
Let yourself just be
Not thinking, not doing, but just being present in the moment (yes, just like that song). The best way to practice this skill is to try meditation and mindfulness practices.
Here's the easiest and most effective one;
Take a couple of minutes, distract yourself from everything, and try to hear all the sounds that surround you, do the same thing with smells, with colors, with tactile sensations. Repeat this practice every day, and you'll soon begin to notice that you are “grounded” and beginning to truly experience life.
Even the tiniest ones. The best way to learn how to enjoy the process is to divide the desired result into many small steps and reward yourself for each of them. Reward yourself with something really enjoyable, something that makes you happy, and do not forget to praise yourself properly!
Older generations have a habit of having things for a special occasions. Our mothers and grandmothers taught us to save the most beautiful and expensive things “for the guests”. Forget about it! Throw away the unloved assorted plates and get those very parade-ready plates, make use of them every day to create a feast, not just when guests come over.
Surround yourself with aesthetically pleasing things to look at, everything you use every day should make you feel good. Why not start enjoying life right now?
Get a hobby you love
Interest and hobbies (not work related!) are another way to get a taste of life and learn how to live right now, for example; yoga is based on the ability to keep your balance, so you concentrate on the sensations in your body during the class and learn to think only about the present, drawing, photography, or handwork help you hear your own thoughts and unleash your creative energy.
By the way, tidying up and doing chores can be a real therapy for deferred life syndrome. If you approach the process creatively and consciously, you simultaneously kill two birds with one stone: you organize the space and realize that the process can be as enjoyable as the result.
Anything can be handled when you have support. If you feel that it's hard to get rid of deferred-life syndrome on your own, enlist the help of a psychologist or just share it with the people you love and ask for support.
I'm ready to be your support too, that's undoubtedly what I was created to do. Every day I help thousands of people to bring order, harmonize space, and enjoy simple things. I’m here if you need something, you know where to find me. I'll run to prepare the next article for you.
See you later,